Choose A Christ-Centered Marriage

When you’re disenchanted with your marriage, the intimate husband-wife relationship you once celebrated is deteriorating, and marital bliss has proven an elusive cliché, disappointment reigns. Stripped of the illusion that marriage is easy and love is painless, it’s tempting to succumb to self-absorbed inaction. You may be asking, “Why should I be the first one to reach out?” Perhaps strained communication with your husband or wife has your confidence faltering. Or maybe your spouse’s callous inattention to your feelings has driven you to shield yourself with a haughty indifference. Realize this: Satan wants you to feel powerless to salvage your marriage. He delights when couples apathetically decide their marriage is dysfunctionally beyond repair. Be careful; logging an ever-growing mental list of your spouse’s shortcomings will entrap you in a perpetual state of ingratitude, self- pity, and implacable condemnation. Marriages dominated by self-centeredness and prideful anger reject the 1 Corinthians 13 definition of love and dishonor not only your spouse, but your Creator. So take charge; take action; take heart. You are not alone. Your all-powerful Father is waiting for you to turn to Him. Seek God instead of seeking faults in your spouse. Cast aside your self-interest in the interest of loving the person you promised forever to. Become a Christ-centered spouse by integrating the following scripture-based actions into your marriage.

Choose joy. A joyful spirit is attained through a conscious choice. A joyful spirit rejoices in the Lord in all seasons of life.

“Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” –Romans 12:12 NIV

“But I trust in your unfailing love; my heart rejoices in your salvation.” –Psalm 13:5

“Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!” –Philippians 4:4

Pursue humility. Lay down your pride. Put your spouse first. Stay humble to give God room to use you in your marriage.

“The LORD sustains the humble but casts the wicked to the ground.” –Psalm 147:6

“He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.” –Micah 6:8

“For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you.” –Romans 12:3

Seek strength in Christ. Rather than wallowing in your human weakness, revel in the supernatural power found in Christ’s strength.

“The LORD is my light and my salvation— whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life— of whom shall I be afraid?” –Psalm 27:1

“Do you not know? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” –Isaiah 40:28-31

Be grateful. Resist the urge to complain about the negative attributes of your spouse. Instead, be grateful for what God has given you. Thank God for the qualities you appreciate about your spouse.

“Give thanks to the LORD, for he is good; his love endures forever.” –Psalm 107:1

“Shout for joy to the LORD, all the earth. Worship the LORD with gladness; come before him with joyful songs. Know that the LORD is God. It is he who made us, and we are his; we are his people, the sheep of his pasture. Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name.” -Psalm 100:1-4

Glorify God together. Relocate the focus off of yourself and onto the Lord. Join together with your spouse to exalt the King of Kings and remember your roles as His children.

“Not to us, LORD, not to us but to your name be the glory, because of your love and faithfulness.” –Psalm 115:1

“Ascribe to the LORD, all you families of nations, ascribe to the LORD glory and strength.” -1 Chronicles 16:28

“So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” -1 Corinthians 10:31